January 31, 2012 was, to date, the worst day of my life. In one conversation, the world I knew and the life I had created and loved was transformed into doubt, disbelief and despair. So now, exactly one-year later, I have the ability to reflect on where I am today as compared to where I was then. What has struck me most, I have captured below:
- Despite the fact that you never enter them with the intent to fail, marriages can and often do fail. When they do, you will realize that it is your friends and family that will carry you through the worst days. These are the people who, in many cases, knew you before you were ‘a wife’ and these are the people who will be with you going forward.
- The definition of family is not defined by anyone other than yourself. True family is not always related.
- Time truly does heal all wounds. My dad, who has been my rock this year, would often tell me on the ‘bad days’ to remember that the hard times will still happen, but they will get fewer and further between. Don’t pressure yourself to feel instantly better today but remember it is a process.
- Nothing is as scary as you make it out to be. When I first moved back home with Nugget on my own, I remember being so afraid of Sunday nights. To me, Sunday nights meant being with your spouse and having that guaranteed companionship. I was petrified of feeling alone on Sunday nights. Turns out that it never happened. Yes, some Sunday nights I am alone BUT it’s actually kind of nice. ;)
- Spoil yourself.
- Focus on the positives. For me, at the beginning, they were the tiniest things, but they made a huge difference. Things like having the closet entirely for myself or being able to make unilateral decisions about home decor or not having to share the TV were definitely the silver linings in my life at that time.
- Create a new soundtrack for your life. I did this immediately via iTunes using a joint account which, unfortunately sent the playlist to my ex. Ooopie. ;) That being said, that little cd became my anthem and was the therapy I needed to remind me to not wallow in self pity, but to instead move forward like a champ. On a related note, I recently passed that same cd on to a friend as I have plenty of other mixes that fill my playlist these days. :)
As for today? One year later there are still remnants of January 31, 2012 but they are such tiny fragments that I can only best compare it to the tiniest sprinkling of dust on my fabulous new life. I am closer to my friends and family then I have ever been. I have created a safe, comfortable home for my boys, and I feel finally at peace with the idea of not always knowing where life will take me but knowing that I have a choice as to how positive it will be.
I hope you all are having an amazing day. Happy January 31st Friends!!!!
My amazing sister-in-law spent the day at my house baking up the most delicious cookies for her equally amazing boyfriend. It was her BF’s birthday yesterday, hence the fact that I had to hold off on posting these bad boys until she had a chance to surprise him with this twist on his favorite candy – Reese’s Peanut Butter cups.
Because she is so great, she even made a few extra for me. Ummm….yes please!!!! These are awesome. And huge! And awesome!!!!!
Here is a link to the recipe for the peanut butter cup stuffed chocolate cookies. Karlynn is an Edmonton (yeah Canada!!!) based mom who has the most insanely delicious cookie recipes up on her blog.
I am terribly sorry if I ruined anyone’s New Year’s resolution with this one….but come one….it’s almost February….aren’t we done with that nonsense already?!? ;)
Let’s add some more amazing stuff to our Home Organization binders!!
Even though it’s just Nugget and I, both of my freezers (the fridge-freezer and stand alone deep freezer) are stuffed and filled with ‘who-knows-what’ at any given time. I have gone on binges where I go to Costco, stock up on their amazing meat or frozen veggies and then throw them in one of the freezers to never be seen or heard from again.
I came across this idea whilst perusing home organization blogs and thought this was brilliant.
Here’s the general concept.
First off, take an inventory of your freezer contents. For me, this will also mean doing a major purge as I know some of the stuff in my freezer was probably put there before Obama took office…..the first time.
Once you know what’s in your freezer (and it is clearly labelled), use your inventory list when you are planning your weekly meal plan. Not only will it save you $$$ because you won’t be buying redundant items, but it also will keep the bulk down in your freezer.
Just like everything else in my Home Organization Binder, I have about a dozen copies of this inventory sheet on hand so that I am never out of stock.
Happy Freezer Organizing!
Happy Tuesday Friends! It’s minus 30 outside with the windchill so this post is all about the things that I wish I had come spring time…..which truly couldn’t come any quicker. What’s on your wish list these days????
The Happiness Project: my springtime ‘must read’
The Essential Spring Coat
Bird House Candle Holder
Colorful Serving Bowls for fresh fruit
Soft, Striped Sweater Tee inspired by this look
I know that this is pretty-much the opposite of meatless Monday, but I made this recipe this weekend and it’s too good to not share.
My parents bought me a tagine this year for Christmas and since then every dish I have made in it has turned out spectacularly. These little meatballs were kind of a last minute decision on Friday night, but were the best decision I made all weekend. :)
The recipe is here. I added a bit more smoked paprika, omitted the spicy components to keep it Nugget friendly and skipped the eggs all together. Additionally, I threw in a smidge of Moroccan seasoning to add a hint more flavour. All in all, the verdict was………….
Delicious!!! :) I served it with toasted sourdough bread which was spread with garlic butter. Mmmmmmmmmmmm….eatball!!!
Happy Monday friends.
Friends! I have to apologize for the lack of posting yesterday. This past week has been miserable at my house between two bouts of the flu from me and one from Nugget. Whenever I am sick like this I always revert back to my childhood and the tea that my dad (who we fondly refer to as ‘The Donald’) used to make me to fight off whatever bug it was that I was battling. Now before you all panic, it was late in my teens that my dad introduced the ‘rum aspect’ to this tea. ;) I’ve spruced it up by adding the ginger tea to this traditional ‘brew’. So here it is – The Donald’s Cold and Flu Remedy Tea:
The Donald’s Cold & Flu Remedy Tea
- Lemon Ginger Tea (or whatever herbal tea you fancy)
- 2 Tbsps of honey
- 3 Tbsps of lemon juice
- 1 ounce of rum (omit if you are making this for a youngster)
Brew tea to desired strength. Add honey, lemon, juice and rum. Stir well until honey is dissolved. Drink immediately while it’s piping hot!
The lemon gives you a dose of vitamin C, the honey soothes your throat, the ginger comforts an upset tummy, and the rum…..well, it takes away the aches and pains. ;)
Have a safe, healthy and fantastic weekend!
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I can not tell you how many times I have gone away for the weekend and realized that I forgot my toothbrush, my pajamas or (my personal favorite) underwear. It seems these days I am constantly living out of a suitcase so I devised a fail proof checklist to help me quickly pack for a weekend away. This way I avoid the unnecessary stress that comes with trying to remember everything, and then realizing upon arrival at my weekend destination that I will be going commando for the balance of the trip. ;)
I have printed a dozen of these little gems out and put them in my home organization binder which you previously saw here.
Happy Packing Friends!
Last week was not my best week. Between fighting a flu while simultaneously taking care of a sick Nugget, I couldn’t wait for the weekend to come. Dear John and I contemplated staying home and just chilling on the couch this weekend, but in the end we opted to head out to beautiful BC (thanks Michelle & Dano). Hey, if you are going to to have a weekend of R&R, you might as well do it with a mountain backdrop. :)
Here are some of the highlights of our weekend. Also, here’s the link to my winter jacket. It is honestly the warmest, ‘best-est’ coat I’ve ever owned.
Isn’t it amazing how two days out of town can feel like a week. I feel completely rested and ready to take on this week. :)